Q:I feel bad that my bf and I haven't had sex yet. We're both teens, dating for over a year, and the most we've done is make out. I was going to save my body for marriage, so thats why we never went past kissing and he never pressured me. But now that I've changed my mind, I kinda feel bad.I mean, men need sex and sexual release, right? That's what society says and now I feel like a jerk for depriving him of a "need" he might have :/ Sometimes I wonder why he never cheated on me :/
First off: never ever feel bad for not doing something you either don’t want to do OR are not ready to do. Your body is your own and you ALONE decide what to do with it.
No one is ever entitled to sex, whether you’ve been dating for awhile, engaged, married, friends with benefits…regardless of the type of relationship.
If your boyfriend ever makes you feel like you *should* have sex with, run run RUN in the opposite direction, this is not someone who cares about you.
As for men “needing” sex, this is simply a gender norm that many men are told from the time they’re young and quite frankly, is outdated.
Men are definitely *socialized* to want sex more than women, just like they’re socialized to not show emotion or vulnerability, to behave in certain ways in order to be “manly”.
But that’s very different from being “wired” a specific way.
And even if is WAS true that men need sex more, it STILL doesn’t entitle them to sex. With ANYONE. Ever. In LIFE.
Sex should always be consensual. ALWAYS. It should never be coerced or an obligation.
Also, it’s a good idea to communicate with your boyfriend about how you’re feeling. Again, if he cares about you, he would NEVER try to get you to do anything you’re not comfortable doing.
Lastly, you don’t need to have sex while in a relationship. There’s no set of rules about what physical activity you should or shouldn’t do. That is a decision to be made between the people involved.
Please know that you are worthy of being treated with respect, regardless of whether you have sex now, wait until you’re an adult, or wait till marriage. It is your decision and it should be respected.
based on the title of this video i thought this video was going to be absolute trash but i’m pleasantly surprised A+ can all people share his views on this subject pls
Q:I kissed dating goodbye... but there was tongue. Lots of tongue.
I. just. hollered. I HOLLERED.
what does losing virginity means? why don’t we just say the first time of having sex
I can honestly tell you that I spent 17 years thinking my worth came from my virginity and within one month I realised what bullshit that is just so you all are aware.
Hello my lovely followers!
Okay, I have an important topic I want to discuss. VIRGINITY. Many of you may cringe at the sight of that word, but I just want to have an open discussion which you guys are more than welcome to give feedback on.
Personally, I think sex is natural and special, but it…
Why is it called ‘losing’ your virginity? You don’t lose it. You don’t wake up one morning and be like “oh my god! Where’s my virginity gone?!”
Q:I just looked through your entire about me and all of your tagged/answered to see if you had ever said anything about your virginity. You're too gorgeous to be a virgin, but you've never said you weren't either.
- Virginity is a social construct.
- Virginity is just a fucking term.
- I have not answered either way, because I do not like to publicly discuss that. I think it’s personal, and none of your business on if I have had sex or not.
Q:hi! so I'm 17 and a virgin and I'm really ready to have sex but I'm a little scared because sometimes I test myself to see what I can handle and even having one finger inside me isn't very pleasant. I know your first time hurts but how much? I'm kinda freaking out about it...
While your first time can cause you a little discomfort, it really shouldn’t hurt you. The best thing to remember when having sex (with penetration) for the first time is lubrication. Take time with your partner to make sure you are wet; ask them to stimulate your clit with their fingers or mouth, or to do anything else that arouses you, before penetration.
Remember, if you do experience pain during your first time, or feel uncomfortable or unsafe in any way, you can always stop.
For masturbation, here is a guide on penetration and finding what feels best for you.
Q:So my boyfriend wants to rush in to sex but I'm afraid that it's going to hurt what should I do??
Don’t rush into anything. If you take your time and ease into it, it’s not going to hurt, but it doesn’t sound like you are ready yet. Don’t do it if you aren’t ready.